The Christmas season is here. It takes advance planning to
make it a season of peace and joy for your family. Here are some
The first thing to consider is the toys you choose to give
your children. There is no place in this season for violent
toys. Simply refuse to buy them. You might also inform the
storeowner why you are not buying these toys. He might be
influenced by you not to stock them. Inform your children well
in advance that that is the policy in your family in order to
avoid disappointment, tears and whining. Do not be swayed by
being told that Johnny’s mother buys him those toys. Say you are
not responsible for what Johnny or his mother chooses to do. You
are only responsible for what you choose to do. And you choose
to support a violence-free home. Saying these sentences early
avoids a great deal of conflict later in the season.
Buy toys that are children’s toys and not scaled-down
versions of adults’. Children are being treated like miniature
adults. Their clothing is the same, their entertainment is the
same and their games and toys are the same. Extreme examples of
this trend are some of the dolls, their clothing, and all the
accouterments that go with them. These dolls are miniature
adults. Children can only play with them as though they were
adults not children. Boys have the same version in the toys that
represent soldiers and other adult figures. Try to find toys
that represent the world of childhood and fantasy, and make-
Buy toys that stretch the creative imagination of children.
These are the toys that are not made for one purpose but those
that can be made into many different things. The only limitation
is the child’s imagination. A swing can only be used one way.
The same can be said for a sliding board. Whereas, large tunnels
or circles can be a cave, a space ship, a train, a house and on
and on. What it is changes every day and keeps the child’s
interest and imagination alive. Even buying a toy house is not
as creative as getting orange crates and making them into houses.
All the child needs is wall paper and rug samples, popsicle
sticks to make furniture, old magazines to make people and so on.
They can continue adding and changing this house long after
Christmas is over. The store-brought house, on the other hand,
is static and limited and loses interest.
Do not forget large building blocks and legos for both boys
and girls. There are also many new creative board games on the
market which can be fun for the whole family. Read the
directions carefully to determine if the game is appropriate for
your family’s values.
The next thing to consider are the gifts husbands and wives
give to each other. You need to show a little imagination and
consideration here. Husbands should not give their wives
presents like irons, coffee makers, vacuum cleaners, dishes and
so forth to their wives. These are presents for a house not for
a person. Rather, try giving a negligee, perfume, or jewelry.
The same thing applies to wives giving gifts to husbands. Give
them something for themselves like golf clubs, jewelry, sweater
and so forth. Do not give a lawn mower or anything else for the
house. If it is very difficult to figure out what to give a
spouse, the best strategy is to ask rather than to try to guess.
If you guess wrong, your spouse might feel you really do not know
or understand him or her very well and be very disappointed. Or,
another scenario is that the spouse is afraid to say he or she is
disappointed and winds up keeping an unwelcomed, and, at times, a
very expensive gift.
Good planning makes for a happier holiday. I hope yours is
peaceful and joyful.