As the new school year begins, it helps to remember the following:
1. Children cannot control or change what the adults in their
lives choose to do. Therefore we need to help them to become
problem solvers and to look to themselves for solutions. Try not
to step in and solve problems for them rather look at problems
that arise as opportunities for children to learn and put into
practice problem-solving techniques. You show them more respect
by giving them these opportunities.
2. To be successful problem solvers, children need to believe in
themselves and to take responsibility for their own behavior.
You can help them by:
a. providing opportunities for them to accept themselves.
b. help them to use mistakes as a way to learn and not as an
excuse to say: “I’m a failure and no good.”
c. help them to take responsibility for their day.
d. use encouragement and catch them being right.
3. Provide opportunities for children to learn to develop
communication skills. This can be done over the dinner table.
Each member of the family can be encouraged without fear of
interruption or riducle to tell something good that happened that
4. Provide opportunities for children to be empathetic.
Piaget says the purpose of education is moral and
intellectual autonomy. Concern for others is as important as
5. Provide opportunities for children to understand and to
accept their unique temperaments and learning styles.
6. Monitor the images of violence your child is exposed to on the
TV, on-line, games, books. Encourage stories which demonstrate
solving problems by compromise.